Saturday, September 26, 2020

September 26th: More yard work at Wendy & Matt's; Fun in San Juan Capistrano

 

In the Linda's Birthday blog post, I wrote that I didn't have good pictures of the Banana Bay Group. Fortunately, my friend Natalie helped me out. Here are a couple pictures. I'm not going to try to name the people. If you are in it you know everyone. If you are not in it, it just won't matter!


Party at the Banana Bay Point
Banana Bay Friends - Create a cocktail competition


While I was at Rebecca's, she showed me her spiraling machine. She made some spiraled golden beets for us. They were great! She also made some spiraled sweet potatoes fries in her Instapot. It's a great way to do vegetables. I might need one of these.

Golden Beets Spiralized


Rebecca also had a food processor she was no longer using. She suggested I take it and try it. I thought it might be a pain to clean but might as well try it. I decided to try it on my cucumber salad. I needed to chop the cucumbers, green onions and roasted red peppers. It worked great. And, it actually isn't that hard to clean. It is a lot easier than chopping things up.

My "New" food
 processor from Rebecca


Cucumber Salad


I called Wendy one morning to see what was going on. She said Matt was out running and she was going to start some serious trimming of the bushes in front of the house to surprise him. She also said I should feel free to come help! These are the same bushes I trimmed off of the driveway, but I didn't do the center or along the sidewalk. They were getting quite out of control. We ended up with a pretty good sized pile of green waste! The yard looked very nice when we finished and Matt was impressed.

Trimmings

Wendy & Matt's front yard

A few days later Matt became quite ambitious. He decided to trim the massive Bird of Paradise Plant behind the house.

Giant Bird of Paradise Plant from the front. It's behind the house above the garage door.
The house you see is on the hill behind their house.


Wendy and I spent a lot of time and effort digging a hole and planting the Giant Bird of Paradise, which was about 8 feet tall at the time. Now it is easy to see why the name, Giant Bird of Paradise! It's a very fun plant. When grilling I feel like I am in a rain forest. Over time some of the leaves turn yellow and die. In addition, the blossoms become quite large but unattractive as they shrivel. So Matt went to work.

I held the 8 foot
step ladder while
 Matt did the work.



He thought he was closing in on finishing when I said, "I think you can get some of those other yellow leaves from the roof. He agreed!




















Matt on the roof trimming in earnest!



When he finished it looked great. Notice the barbecue grill beneath the plant leaves.



Trimming finished, except for cleanup

Trimming Debris

Picture with me for a size perspective. The Giant bird of Paradise is 25 to 30 feet tall! Wendy and I planted it about 15 years ago.





While cleaning up the debris, Matt went over to a dead stump that had been dead for quite a while. He started pushing on it to see how difficult it would be to take out. Surprisingly it just fell over! One more project completed. And a bonus for Rebecca, Matt suggested we cut it up and give it to Rebecca for her fire pit! I'm certain I will also enjoy it.

Mighty Matt felled the stump with one push!


I finally finished the puzzle Wendy brought back from Colorado! The sand and blue water were tough but the animals were fun and went together pretty easily. I kept trying to figure out where the one white piece should go. After finishing the puzzle, I discovered it didn't fit anywhere!

Completed Puzzle
Puzzle piece that didn't fit anywhere 


Wendy and I have been making Type One (Carol Tuttle) T-shirts for me. Type One colors are pure color, plus white. No black or solid gray. I am a Type One. I am finding I really do enjoy wearing the bright colors and Type One pattern shirts. Type One patterns display animated shapes, random placement, rounded shapes and high movement. Her Cricut machine works great for cutting out iron on vinyl and we found the pure color T-shirts at Michael's.

Here are the first two we made for me. I decided we needed more frogs for the second shirt. Obviously, I like tree frogs!

First Attempt





Second Attempt

I had a dentist appointment, so of course I wore one of my new T shirts. It was a hit. My dentist told me she had a therapy dog I should meet before I left. Talk about cute and friendly! It's actually one of the staff member's new puppy. I wanted to take him home. (After he's fully trained of course.)

Puppy at Dentist office

I received a call from Craig. He suggested I come up for a visit, help him change a couple bike tires and tubes, and then go for a bike ride. Sounded good. We had the tires changed in short order and thanks to Matt's phone assistance, had the tread going in the correct direction. 

Steve with his new
bike and Craig
We went for a long bike ride along the Doheny creek to the ocean. Doheny Creek Map  If you look at the map and enlarge it you'll see the marina we rode to.

The creek exit to the ocean



It was a beautiful day so we rode along the coast to the very large marina at Dana Point. Craig led me across a bridge to a small island on the far side of the marina. We had a great view of a lot of the boats. I spotted a trawler similar to Yesterday's Dream anchored in the small harbor. Definitely made me homesick! Or I guess boatsick! I'm enjoying California, but I do miss living on the water on Yesterday's Dream.

Trawler similar to Yesterday's Dream anchored in Dana Point Harbor

Craig explained that there will be a steady stream of boats coming south on their way to Mexico for the winter. I wonder how the coronavirus will impact that. He said many of the boats are typically coming from Canada.

I spotted three interesting boats that had extremely long bow sprits (walkways). I asked Craig what they were for. He explained that the walkway would be lowered at sea and a fisherman would walk out to the front to try to spear bill fish while cruising up on them. I think I prefer a fishing pole!

Fishing boats with very long bow sprits raised in the air

It seemed like the ride back was a lot longer. It ended up being about a three hour trip. By the time we returned we had just enough time for a shower before Happy Hour! Sitting on their patio is very relaxing, enjoying the humming birds that come by. I believe I see a hummingbird T shirt in my future!

Karen's cherry tomato plant is completely out of control. It has grown way out of the garden and is now taking over part of the lawn by the putting green. The tomatoes are delicious and more than plentiful.

All the vines on the grass are cherry tomatoes

Craig and Karen went to work on supper. Pulled pork sandwiches with baked beans! Excellent. Craig had some leftover cookie dough from a grand kids visit, so he made chocolate chip cookies for a television dessert. As Karen said, "Don't ever plan on losing weight when you come here."



We started talking about Game of Thrones and it had been a long time since Craig and Karen had watched it. We decided to watch the final two episodes. It went kind of late for us but we only had to wake Karen up once!

Craig and I decided on a hike instead of another bike ride for the morning. Both are enjoyable and there are numerous trails. Craig recommended the Peppertree Trail this time. It had some elevation, but surprisingly, a lot of shade. There was a great view in the distance of the Saddleback mountains, the highest in the area at about 5,000 feet. Compared to the last two hikes, this hike was pretty easy.


Craig on Peppertree Trail




Saddleback Mts. in the distance





The trail wound between some very nice homes. In addition, it provided a view of some spectacular homes. One is for sale at $11,000,000. I couldn't get a good picture of it but many of the homes at this elevation are really something! The way the trails go I could only get clear pictures of a few but you'll get the idea.


This is all one property with beautiful landscaping

This is all one house

This was not a loop trail so we decided to just backtrack instead of taking a trail down to the highway. There are sidewalks along the highway, but the walk on the trail was much nicer. Along the way we passed a few horses. Some of these homes have large enough properties that they are allowed to have horses. There are also boarding stables and horses are quite popular.



The hiking trip ended up being about three hours, part of that a sight seeing drive in the area. We had some good sandwiches for lunch and I exercised restraint by turning down the root beer float! The ride home was very easy with very little traffic. All in all another great visit with Karen and Craig.


Saturday, September 19, 2020

September 19th: Linda's birthday is September 20th

Several people have said something like, "Linda's birthday is coming up, it's going to be tough. Are you prepared?"  I appreciate the support. I honestly hadn't thought much about it until I was asked, maybe the third time. So I thought to myself "So how am I doing and am I prepared?" I've decided that there are options for how to deal with losing a spouse/lover/best friend of fifty + years. One option is to is to keep so busy you don't think about it. I believe I tried that for a short while. It doesn't work. There are many things that snuck into my mind on a daily basis. Something as simple as driving past McDonald"s, Linda's favorite fast food treat, would cause me to feel the loss and pain of losing Linda. I worked consciously to think about and feel something else. 

But I've come to realize that if I acknowledge those feelings of loss, I can move on to thinking and feeling about how much Linda, and therefore I also, enjoyed the special treat of going to McDonald's. I don't know which she enjoyed more, McDonald's or a Dunkin Doughnut Boston Cream doughnut. She would be so excited when I surprised her by bringing a Boston Cream Doughnut back to the boat. If I don't think about it, I won't enjoy that happy memory.

My point is, I've decided I don't want to work at pushing thoughts about losing Linda out of my mind to try to ease the pain, at the cost of losing the feelings and memories also. For me, I've come to believe it is a balancing act. I have figured out that there will be many things that will remind me of our life together and I will feel the loss no matter how much I try to "Just think about something else." There are times when I do need to, "Just think about something else." But more often, instead of trying to not think about Linda, I am finding I can say, "Yes I miss her terribly, but I remember and will always feel the love and joy we shared together," as each special memory sneaks up on me. That's the balancing act as I see it. So I believe I am doing pretty well. Certainly being here with the kids is wonderful. 

People sometimes ask me, "So what are you going to do once the coronavirus settles down?" Once it's safe, I plan is to return to Banana Bay for the winter, and return to Guppy in Canada this summer. Time will tell if either of those is possible, but it makes sense to me to do pretty much what Linda and I have done in the past, and then determine where I want to go from there. 

I thought about just not including Linda's birthday in the blog. I didn't want to cause people who love her, to remind them of their grief. But my hope is the pictures I share will allow those who know Linda, to remember the so many good and happy times we shared. I believe in one way or another, those of us who love Linda are feeling the grief and loss, whether we look at old pictures or not. So let's enjoy the happy memories as a positive balance to those feelings. I said I'd like to have a Celebration of Life gathering and given the coronavirus, for now I believe this can work.

Over the years we took many pictures and Linda digitized a lot. Going thru them was addictive. The further I went the more convinced I became it was a good idea. I did the best I could to include as many friends and family as I was able to find from our photo albums. But please know Linda didn't like to have her picture taken. If I missed you, it's Linda's fault not mine, but I'm sure she is watching! The pictures are in no particular order. It took long enough for me to get this far. Remember, I did this, not my tech person Linda!

Linda and her Dad on Why Not?

Matt and Wendy's wedding

Tom, Pat, Linda, Warren, Dick, Warren Sr. and Leona 

Linda with Grandma Grosswiller and the kids

Grandma and Grandpa Franko, Wendy, Rebecca and Christopher

The Drouhard family

Franko get together at an old Inn, Loudonville, OH

Linda, Wendy, Marialice, Steve and Aunt Alice
Marialice and Aunt Alice were known for never missing a family event, no matter how far away.

Dale Limbert, (Matt's Dad)  Linda and her Mom,
Dale loved Linda's oven baked chicken, her Mom's recipe

One of the many Drouhard family gatherings - Sister-in-law Elin on the right

Linda, Steve, Wendy, Barb, Greg & Jenny Craycraft - Houseboat in Canada 1975

Kathleen Hocevar, Barry and Jennifer Hartz, Wendy, Linda  & Rebecca - Canada trip

Paul & Miriam Pendleton, Steve and Linda - Florida - 1998

Woody & Kayla Beville with Linda on Yesterday's Dream

Donna Bambic, Dave Puffer, Linda and Buck Bambic - Yesterday's Dream 2008

Linda, Niece Bethany & Terri Scott (Franko)

Grandma Grosswiller, Linda's Mom Leona, Linda and Wendy 1974

Matt, Rebecca, Wendy, Steve & Linda



Sagamore Hills card game, Rebecca competing with Irene Beville - Very competitive

Dave & Sue Puffer, Linda and Steve on a Happy Days Houseboat - Canada 2012

Grandma Drouhard with her dog Cocoa, Rebecca & Linda on Yesterday's Dream

The Drouhard "Kids" and friends in front of the Log Cabin Pat rebuilt in Loudonville town square

Niece Amanda's wedding

Steve & Linda in the Dominican Republic




Franko Family reunion - the Duck Ride - Quack, Quack

Joe & Joy Kubit, their friends, Linda and Steve, and the "Shrimp" - Florida


Linda and Steve's Wedding Party
Front row from left - Barb Craycraft, Sue Brightbill, Linda, Steve, Vicky Haydu, Rose Marino
Back Row Greg Craycraft, Dave Sarmir, Tom Guillaume, Tim Gorka 

Joe & Joy Kubit with Linda on Kubit's Sailboat
Not McDonald's, but Linda never turned down Burger King. She rode 1/2 mile to get here.

Donna Bambic knows how to enjoy a fly bridge!



Mardi Gras Museum - New Orleans

Terri, Scott & Linda - Anna Marie Island, Florida

Linda, Steve, brother John & wife Daisy Franko & sister

Dave and Joyce Johnson Great Loop cruising friends

Back Row Left - Peter & Cheryl Webb & Mom Lois (Canada) Jim & Linda Murray (Edisto Island, SC)
Great Loop cruising friends 

Linda Limbert, (Matt's mom) and Linda - LeJeune, NC

Franko Family reunion

Nephew J.P. Niece Kaitlyn, Lobster dinner at Banana Bay, FL


Dave & Sue Puffer with Linda at Bahia Honda State Park, Florida Keys

Front row -Sue Puffer, Donna Bambic, Steve
Back Row - Dave holding Chuck, Buck Bambic, Laura Purnell, Linda

Wendy, Linda's kidney brother Tom, Linda, Rebecca, Steve & Matt
Oceanside, California

Linda with Nancy Murphy - anchored on Murphy Tug, Florida

Franko Family Reunion, Our house, Sagamore Hills, Ohio

Linda and Rebecca's dog, Trevi

J.P. & his Mom, (Niece) Christi

Linda with visiting kittens, she sure loved cats

One of many lobster dinners

Franko Family reunion - Cleveland, Ohio

Donna & Buck Bambic - Banana Bay, Marathon, FL


Craig and Karen Rahn - Canada cruising friends from San Juan Capistrano, CA

Karen Rahn & Linda on a ferry ride, California

She bought it for herself!



Linda on Deja vu with Cheryl Webb, Lois and sister

Dinner at the Puffers - Laura Purnell, Woody & Irene Beville, Bambics



Linda and brother Tom at the Perrysville Diner

Randy & Cindy Petersen with us at The Full Cup, Bobcaygeon, Trent Canal Ontario, Canada

The deer hunters, Nephew Matt, Niece Mandy, brother Warren (Linda didn't hunt!)

 Great selfie by Rebecca


Linda relaxing with London, Rebecca's dog

Banana Bay group out on Reflection to watch the sunset

The Andy (Steve's twin brother) Franko Family
Bethany, Michael, Helen, Andy & Laci



We had many fun card games with Julie (Steve's sister) & Jim
Jim always played Ann Murray for Linda

We enjoyed many fine breakfasts with Julie and Jim at Gus's
Julie and Jim housed us many times on out trips to Cleveland and accepted all our mail.



Point at Banana Bay Marina, our winter home- Unfortunately I cannot find many pictures of our wonderful friends we have come to consider family.




Linda & Wendy enjoying Arizona



Wendy, Linda & Rebecca visiting a winery



Linda & London



Steve & Linda in Maine

Thank you everyone for enriching our lives!